A survivor speaks out about teen dating violence in the famous TedTalks series.
March 9th 2010
Ohio Senate Passes Dating Violence Protection Bill
Ohio Senators have unanimously passed a House bill that would allow juvenile courts to issue protection orders for minors in dating relationships.
The Ohio House of Representatives is expected to concur Wednesday. The legislation would then go to Gov. Ted Strickland, who is expected to sign it.
The bill was inspired in part by the plight of Cleveland teen Johanna Orozco, who was shot in the face by her 17-year-old ex-boyfriend in 2007 has had numerous operations. Orozco wanted to get a protection order, but Ohio juvenile courts cannot issue them against minors.
An advocacy group said in a national survey last year that only a handful of states have laws enabling minors the same protection order rights as adults.
This was Ohio in 2010! It’ll be interesting to follow-up with them to see how effective the law has changed since then.
As we look at the cute couples in High School you would never think that 1 and 5 teens that have been in a serious relationship report being hit, slapped or pushed by a partner. This is a subject that we don’t talk about over coffee or on lunch break. Most of all this wouldn’t be a subject an abused teen would speak with their parents about. 1 in 3 girls who have been in a serious relationship say they’ve been concerned about being physically hurt by their partner. To change these astounding numbers we have to speak up and speak out about Teen Dating Violence. No matter what parents of the victims have to be supportive no matter the frustrations. Here are some of the signs to look for:
- Falling or failing grades
- Increased instances of indecision, stops giving her own opinion
- Changes in mood or personality
- Use of drugs/alcohol, not just experimentation
- Emotional outburst, not just mood swings
- Will become isolated, insist on more privacy
- Physical signs of injury cuts, bruises, etc.
- Makes excuses for the abusers behavior
- Begins to put herself/himself down.
SIGNS OF ABUSE FROM THE ABUSER
- Is extremely jealous, hypersensitive and controlling
- Verbally abusive and threatens violence
- Has unpredictable mood swings, with instances of explosive anger
- Uses drugs and alcohol not just experimentation
- Isolates their partner from friends and family
- Uses force during an argument, physical and emotional
- Believes in rigid sex roles women are a possession
- Blames others for his problems or feelings
- Has a history of abusive relationships.
Stay open with your teen and be honest about Teen Dating Violence. Be Honest about how common it really is and keep the lines of communication open with who they are dating. Always remember you are not your child’s best friend you are their parent. Support and understanding is the biggest thing that you can give your child with dating and teen dating violence. Speak up and Speak out against violence and you can involve your teen too in this process. Getting your child involved will also teach him or her that it isn’t the right relationship to be a part of. These tools should help keep you more educated and your teen safer. Remember there is NO EXCUSE FOR ABUSE.